It’s something of an irony when you think about it.
Back in the post-war era many people dreamt of the time-saving devices we own today. From dish washers to microwaves, on-demand TV and electric lawn mowers we have more gadgets than ever which should be creating a utopia of minimal work.
Sadly, the reality is somewhat different. Not only are many of us working longer hours than ever before, but these days it is normal for both partners to be esconced in work for much of the week just to pay for the lifestyle we deserve.
It seems we’ve come full circle, with more time-saving devices than ever before – yet less time than we’ve ever had. What went wrong?
These days very little of our week is really devoted to “free time” – even weekends can be a blur of activity from getting the car fixed, to taking the kids out, to doing the grocery shopping. When does it ever stop?
The answer, of course, is tha it stops when we make it.
And that’s what this article is all about. If you feel that your life is getting faster and busier all the time, and that you’re struggling to wrestle a little “me time” each week then what can be done? How can you “find” the time to enjoy a massage – or indeed any other pleasurable leisure pursuit?
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Be Conscious of Your Goals
The first factor when trying to find the time for a regular massage is being conscious of your goals. Too often we simply “sleep walk” through life, reacting to one situation after another but never truly taking control. Before you know it another week has gone past in a blur and you’ve failed to take some quality “me time”.
The first step then is to sit down and really focus on what matters to your quality of life. What is really important? Just as importantly, what factors have the opposite effect? Only by staying focused on your goals will you manage to achieve them.
Set Your Priorities
Over the years I have struggled to achieve my goals time and again. Two perfect examples are getting my personal finances in order and getting into shape. In both scenarios I spent literally years with these two goals in mind – but without making any progress.
Why? Quite simply they weren’t a priority at the time.
What I found in both situations was also that making these goals a priority suddenly helped me to make strides towards them.
I’m far from alone in this. The internet abounds with debt repayment stories where people sank deeper and deeper into debt, always wanting to become debt free but never quite succeeding. The day they drew a line in the sand and made paying off their debt or eating right or going to the gym their number one priority they immediately started to make progress.
If you want to set aside some quality “me time” for a massage then it’s essential to make it a priority. Write it down, focus on it and slowly it’ll turn into a habit.
Block Off Time
Time – the one thing we all long for more of – yet which we all struggle with.
If you want a little “me time” then decide on a time and a day (every Friday evening after the kids have gone to bed, for example) and then focus on this. Refuse to let anything else take priority. Just for that one-hour period turn off your phone, ignore the washing up and turn off the TV. That’s your time – don’t let anyone else mess with it.
You’re busy – I know that. But what are you going to do moving forward so your regular massage sessions can remain? One suggestion is to “minimize” all the other things that you do in order to find some time for a massage.
Consider tracking your time each week (or keeping a journal) so that you can see just how your time is being spent. Also consider which of these elements are truly essential, and which ones are not. Furthermore, which ones do you like least?
While it may feel odd at first, consider if you could eliminate any of these factors from your life. After all, all you need to do is get rid of an hour or two a week and you can enjoy your massage session without guilt or worry.
Lastly in terms of those elements in your life that cannot be removed, for example, consider if there are solutions. For example if much of your time is taken up with childcare, could you share this responsibility with a friend? Perhaps you could pick up your kids and someone else’s one evening, have a play date and then take them home. Another evening the other parent could return the favor – saving you lots of time to relax.
Rather than driving to the supermarket to buy groceries, could you order online and save yourself time?
Blocking off time for a massage each week can be problematic for many of us within today’s increasingly busy world. However there are solutions when you really put your mind to it. By being mindful of how you’re spending your time, and then ruthlessly prioritizing even the busiest of us should be able to find at least a few hours each week for some quality “me time”.